Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
On Monday morning, a man reported seeing a girl child being ‘clobbered’ by a male relative (father, uncle or brother) he wasn’t sure. This happened in Traffic. He tried to follow the car but he lost them in traffic. He was horrified because he says he hit the girl as if he was hitting an adult man, clap, slap, fist, bang on the window, the works. Now I was shocked and very frightened for the girl. Nothing justifies being hit like that.
Now, a lot of people are already calling for discipline, specifically spanking I think to be outlawed. While I am do not believe in hitting anyone, let alone a child like that I do believe that spanking (for correction and done correctly and in love) is necessary. Not every day, but once in a while.
Writing this post, I am reminded of a conversation I had with my friend earlier. She mentioned a form of disciple that I like and I think I will use over spanking when Miss T is older. Cause and effect. I will write more about this later, but for now, let us discuss spanking discipline.
Proverbs 13:24 says
Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.
I honestly believe that there is nothing wrong with spanking done right. Don’t spank to hurt the child’s feelings or body, don’t spank to belittle or kill the child’s spirit. Spank in love to discipline and direct and guide and mold.
There is great power that comes with being a parent or a guardian, do not abuse that power.
The problem with the world we live in now, is that we have become extremists. We let anger rule when we discipline, sometimes even when we talk to our children, we are just so full of anger. I believe that that is caused by this “rat race” we find ourselves caught up in. Everything has to go a certain way, our way all the time. If it doesn’t then something is wrong. We want what we want now, not 5 minutes from now, not tomorrow, but now. Fast food, fast cars, fast work, fast everything. When do we get a chase to just sit and do nothing? To just take time to be with our families? We don’t have fast families, we have normal families that time time to nurture and grow.
Yes, we want to provide, but our families need us, sane us, more than the provisions.
That is why, I believe the world is full of angry people. You tell a child to do something, if he doesn’t, or takes his time, we blow up. We leave early in the morning and come back home late in the evening, no time to just sit and relax. One small thing and we snap.
Then we talk about how back in the day our parents used to spank us, but it was different. They spent time with us, they knew how to do it properly.
Our children are looking at us and learning from us, let us do things properly so that they can also be great parents. I have never believed in the naughty corner, maybe if someone can explain just how this works, we can all learn and benefit. But for now, I say we should let parents be able to spank and discipline their children.
Please note that there is a difference between abuse and discipline. Spanking is discipline and that should stay. Abuse out!